Hey all. As I promised, here is the 2nd installment of “Girls Mack was seeing for brief moments.”
Much like many of these disasters, the Sports Girl started from the breeding ground of all chaos, OkCupid. Her Mario hatted profile picture caught my eye. Her intermittent message responses made me think we’d never actually meet. And even though she would stop converstaions randomly, her responses to my identical bahavoir to the tune of “I guess you’re bored of me now,” should have clued me in on self esteem issues.
The first date:
Unfortunately, the Mario hat in no way correlated to an appreciation of video games. In fact, she was more interested in the very opposite, sports. She insisted on meeting at a sports bar because she didn’t want to miss a basketball game over our date.
Not a deal breaker, and to be honest, she was actually pretty alluring. Nice eyes, straight red hair that framed her face like a girl out of a shampoo commercial. Curled up in her bar chair, she was kinda cute. I decided to push the bounds of touch early on. She instantly drew attention to it with a “your hand is on my knee.” To which I responded with “now look at that.”
By the end of the date, we were making out during commercial breaks in the game. Which is good because we didn’t have terribly much to talk about it. I hate sports. I tried to move it back to her place as I was getting tired of making out in the bar. I really didn’t want to have sex with her that night. At best I’d have liked to make out with her on her couch as she watched the game. But she strongly resisted that idea.
I wasn’t sure if I wanted to see her again. I could tell she wanted to be “courted” properly and I just didn’t see the attraction strong enough to invest in anything beyond anything casual. She delighted in the way I would brush the hair out of her face which made her look beautiful, but there was something that struck me as needy I couldn’t put my finger on. If I saw her more, I was going to end up in deep.
The Second Date:
The neediness was much more apparent. I wanted to do something relaxed and she wanted to go out for a full on dinner and movie. Over the course of dinner we start to be honest with each other. I revealed some private details of my life and she revealed she was a virgin, a fact she seemed to be very ashamed of. On the whole that didn’t bother me one way or another. But if we were to get involved passed this date it would require that deeper investment.
We ended up seeing a movie during which she didn’t just cuddle up against me, she was literally laying her head on my lap. She seems so safe and happy. This made me feel very sad and sorry for her. The attraction I had felt in the bar was disintegrating. A big part of me wanted to give her another date after this. If we had something in common, I’d could keep it going. If I didn’t feel like one more date and I’d be on the road to marriage, I’d could keep it going. But I knew that I didn’t want it to go anywhere and anything in its place would be disingenuous.
We walked from the theater. It was time to end it.
“This is my train.”
“You’re not going to walk me home?”
“No, I’m sorry.” But before I could get out the sentence why, she interrupted.
“It’s okay. I won’t read into that.”
“Look, I’m sorry. I’m just not feeling it.”
I expected it to sink in for a moment, but instead she immediately snapped back.
“Okay. And that’s what happens when I tell guys I’m a virgin.”
“No it’s not that–“
But she was gone.
–Big Mack Attack